Different people do different things on their days off.
What I like to do on my days away from work is a vastly different to what my partner does. She will happily spend all day outside come rain or shine tending to her horses or any thing really that involves being outside. She gets very bored very quickly being indoors. This sometimes upsets me, especially if we are both off work together and have not planned to do anything. On days such as this she would like to spend the day together doing ‘nice’ things. To date she has been unable to say exactly what ‘nice’ things are. I often wonder if she wants to spend this time together because she is bored herself and has nothing to do indoors. I on the other hand can find a million and one things to busy myself with and enjoy. However, my things are not fun for her. We must do things together apparently. What invariably happens is we get frustrated with each other and neither of us enjoys ourselves. I should point out that if we have planned to do something together we have a great time and lots of fun. Still, I think its very important to have time to ones self. I know for a fact I go back to work a lot happier if i feel I have done something with my days off that I want to do. This may simply be sitting on my fat arse playing computer games all day. Or maybe I just want to watch movies or read. These things are not fun at all to my good lady. She would rather peel her own skin off and bathe in acid. Equally, her things are comparable to a migraine for me. There are many things we do enjoy doing together. Yet the point I am trying to make is that I need to spend at least some of my time off from work doing what ever I feel relaxes me. If I don’t, it’s not only me that suffers but everyone I will meet over the next few days.
Things have changed in my relationship over the past year or so. My partner for example now does the same job as me and understands first hand the need to get away from it all from time to time. She appreciates the fact that I need space as well. I think this is because we plan our time together much more carefully now. Life is very short and could be snuffed out in the blink of an eye. Both my partner and I are acutely aware of this and so we do what ever it is that makes us happy whilst spending quality time together when able.
Thats the best way in my book. It works for us and we have never been happier. She’s happy as we don’t squander our time together and I am happy too. Afterall, I’m allowed to play my computer all day now without fear of upsetting anyone because it makes me happy.
I have never been one for planning. She always has though and it has rubbed off on me. I can see the benefit and I reap the rewards.
Take note! Plan your time and strangely you’ll find you have so much more than you thought.